Monday, 25 October 2010

Positively good news!

I'm finally getting to write this post! I've been waiting for what seemed like forever for the right time to share this...

We're having a baby!!!
Ok, I'll start from the beginning... We had been thinking seriously about starting a family for a little while, but we wanted to wait until we felt ready.

Lots of people say there's never a right time, but I must say, I disagree. It very much depends on your personal circumstances. Of course, having a baby is not something you can plan completely, but you can try to think ahead and consider the "what-if"s. In our case, we wanted to make sure that financially we were in the right place, not because I wanted to be super-rich and spoil my children rotten, but because I think having kids is already a new experience, with a lot of new things to learn and get used to, so the last thing I would want is to worry and stress about how I would pay for bills, etc. For us, the other benefit of waiting, is that we had a lot of time to talk about how we would like to raise our children, what values we think are important to pass on, how we intend to share responsibilities and that sort of thing. Finally, we don't have any close family in this country, so we have to rely solely on each other for day-to-day life with kids, so we had to feel we were at a point in life where we were prepared for it.

So, the time finally came... and we went for it. We are very grateful that it didn't take us too long to get the news we'd been waiting for with that second line appearing in the pregnancy test. Needless to say, we were ecstatic! But, it all seemed surreal, like it was happening to somebody else. Even now, it still feels a bit like that...

So, it all started really well, I felt no different for a while (yes, I confess I did do a couple more tests, just to make sure I wasn't imagining it). Then, at about 7 weeks, the "fun" started, with a lot of nausea, tiredness, dizziness and low blood-pressure (which just made all the other symptoms worse). It got a lot worse by weeks 8 and 9, and only slightly better after that. Now at 12 weeks, it's all still present, but more bearable. I'm hoping it will soon fade away. It's obviously not great to feel this way, but it is, according to the doctor, a good sign, because it means I have a lot of the hormones the baby needs for its initial development.

We went for our 12 week scan yesterday, and it was an amazing experience for both of us. I mean, it's fantastic to have the photos of the scan, but actually seeing the baby "live", moving around inside me, and stretching, and seeing (and hearing) its little heart beating, it's something else... Wow... I know it's the most natural thing in the world, and millions of people have babies and all that... but, experiencing this first hand is indescribable. And seeing what's on the inside of my slightly protruding bump has made it all feel more "real".

That's all for now, but I'll certainly be coming back soon with lots of pregnancy related updates.


  1. Congratulations Barbs and Fabrice. What a lucky baby you are having to have such wonderful parents. Sending you both lots of love xxx